tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post3137528605739217637..comments2023-11-03T06:27:32.016-07:00Comments on The Baby Chase: Post-Shower Bluesthe Babychaser:http://www.blogger.com/profile/12205229469287159556noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-70187990022492640012010-03-12T13:52:12.162-08:002010-03-12T13:52:12.162-08:00sorry for the family problems, aches and pains, et...sorry for the family problems, aches and pains, etc. it's a lot to deal with all at once. <br /><br />baby nurse=great idea!one-hit_wonderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02392238740961497297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-81269883508153700702010-02-25T16:22:42.723-08:002010-02-25T16:22:42.723-08:00I totally understand the funk you're in. You k...I totally understand the funk you're in. You know, I think a lot of it has to do with this...as an IF patient you spend a lot of time sort of spinning your wheels, working toward something and feeling a ton of angst that is directed toward a specific end. When you're pregnant, there's suddenly nothing specific to worry about, just a general feeling of angst about the life change ahead of you. So there's all this free-floating anxiety and not one place toward which to direct it. It's a hard transition, even though you're obviously happy to be in that position! Everything you feel sounds so totally normal to me, though. And I totally understand your being upset with your MIL -- unnecessary! You will be so happy your family got you a night nanny. We called an agency the first week home with the baby as we were at the end of our rope with the sleep deprivation. A friend of mine who has twins had recommended them to us -- said they saved her life in the first weeks. Beyond just rescuing you those evenings, they can help you figure out a routine (or as much of one as possible) and troubleshoot issues -- they come with experience! Such a thoughtful present! Anyway, hang in there!Good Egg Hatchedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06329661201337433257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-8340567338006246542010-02-22T14:53:52.670-08:002010-02-22T14:53:52.670-08:00Uh, in case it wasn't clear: the lady in quest...Uh, in case it wasn't clear: the lady in question in first graf is your MIL. <br /><br />You have all my sympathy and wishes that things get easier soon!Shinejilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03353174053245279899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-36175678923132466142010-02-22T14:52:50.024-08:002010-02-22T14:52:50.024-08:00Urgh, the old "it sucked for me, so it has to...Urgh, the old "it sucked for me, so it has to suck for everyone else" bs. Get over yourself, lady! Let the next generation have some help. <br /><br />A night nanny is such a great idea, even if you have to get up once or so in the middle of the night to pump (and learning to pump early is really helpful--rent a hospital-grade pump for the first month). You'll get some relief for when you hit those sleep deprivation walls and start going insane. I mean that quite literally: I began acting really crazy every week or so until I would get 3-4 hours in a row. <br /><br />It's rough about your sis. Big changes like that are going to feel really hard right now; you're vulnerable and in a huge transition. I hope she finds happiness.Shinejilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03353174053245279899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-56105698006963241482010-02-22T07:37:51.158-08:002010-02-22T07:37:51.158-08:00A NIGHT NURSE!!! Your family is AWESOME. What a f...A NIGHT NURSE!!! Your family is AWESOME. What a fabulous idea! (But EFF your MIL for being such a bitch. I mean, I'm sorry you're jealous that no one did that for YOU, but don't be a jerk about someone else offering the help to a person who clearly could use the help... bitch.)<br /><br />And I'm so sorry about your sister. That must be an incredibly difficult position to be in for her. To be honest, I've never considered leaving H, but his decisions in the last 24 hours have left me wondering whether I'd be better to leave him and suffer now, or to stay with him and suffer watching him kill himself slowly over the next 20 years. What I mean is that I can understand wanting to escape a situation in spite of how much you love a person. It's sad. And hard. <br /><br /><br />Sigh.<br /><br />I *so* hear you on the temper tantrums. And I hear you on the "WTF did I eat NOW that caused heartburn???" And the wonky sleeping schedule. Pregnancy may be SO WORTH the end result, but it doesn't make it suck less. I've really become such an emotional wreck lately. And my body is also really starting to feel the effects of pregnancy, too. Overall, I can't really complain, because the first 20 weeks were pretty easy (all things considered), but things are certainly not getting easier, and I'm not enjoying that aspect of pregnancy. Grr.katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08056463808792013011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-74207327766222711582010-02-21T20:31:11.159-08:002010-02-21T20:31:11.159-08:00I think any amount of night nurse is going to be s...I think any amount of night nurse is going to be so wonderful, especially in the beginning. It's probably a good idea to have her come every few nights at the beginning for at least part of the allotment so that she can help you establish techniques and routines that can see you through the nights you are on your own.<br /><br />Everything you are going through makes sense - this is such a time of transition and everything - new babies, sister stuff - contributes to the unknown. BUT, you'll figure it out. Really. And I totally get the stranded-at-home-alone thing. I have already signed up for baby RIE classes, mostly to give me something to do regularly a few times a week and a way to meet other parents of like-aged kids. And around here, things like that fill up fast, and the waiting lists are a mile long - yikes!Lorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04180034761243431694noreply@blogger.com