tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post4598546395532614633..comments2023-11-03T06:27:32.016-07:00Comments on The Baby Chase: As Boring as Io?the Babychaser:http://www.blogger.com/profile/12205229469287159556noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-83760421508597253752008-02-27T12:23:00.000-08:002008-02-27T12:23:00.000-08:00Update: After writing about my fears re: J's ball...Update: After writing about my fears re: J's balls, I finally told him it was freaking me out and he HAD to do something about it. I candidly admitted that it was my own paranoia (it's not, but why argue the point?), but pointed out that I'm doing most of the heavy lifting in this whole exercise, so could he just do this for me?<BR/><BR/>He has an appointment with a urologist in a week or so. Earliest we could get, but I feel better.the Babychaser:https://www.blogger.com/profile/12205229469287159556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-92153620814797081642008-02-27T06:45:00.000-08:002008-02-27T06:45:00.000-08:00Yeah, I'm as boring as Io, too. Except that she's...Yeah, I'm as boring as Io, too. Except that she's not boring, and neither are you. You've got a whole shitload on your plate to worry about. But, I think that sometimes, if you list out all your "worst case" outcomes, you can be more realistic. You can dismiss the ones that aren't worth thinking about, and focus on ones that are more possible. I also find that it helps me when I make lists like this for me to also include an item for each worry stating what, if any, control I have over the outcome. If there is something I can do to impact the outcome, then I know about it and can take action. If there is nothing I can do to "fix" something, then I have to let it go at that. Throw it to the wind, or some shit like that. You know. <BR/><BR/>And dude. You have to make your husband get his ball-cyst checked out. Again. But he sounds like my husband, with the I'll-get-around-to-it-next-year attitude toward his health. Bunch of cuckoos, they are...katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08056463808792013011noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-5773281296948741672008-02-24T16:02:00.000-08:002008-02-24T16:02:00.000-08:00just stumbled on your blog... wanted to wish you l...just stumbled on your blog... wanted to wish you luck in your upcoming IVF cycle, and i hope that none of those things you mentioned come true! i think we are all guilty of harboring those feelings, especially when it comes to insanity-inducing things like IVF. i have my own worries about this cycle but i'm frantically pushing them out. good luck to you!A -https://www.blogger.com/profile/13155363608146295590noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-46337253501548306162008-02-24T09:38:00.000-08:002008-02-24T09:38:00.000-08:00I obsess about pretty much all of the same things....I obsess about pretty much all of the same things. So, I think that's all pretty normal (or, if its not, at leat you are in good company). Just take a deep breath and try to let the pieces fall where they may...most of the things you mentioned are out of your hands anyway. As for the accupuncture - I've seen studies that go both ways (that it helps and that it hurts)...If it is going to stress you out then it likely isn't going to help. I'd say drop it, pleanty of people get preggo without it every day. =) Best of luck to you!! I'll be checking back for updates!MissNoAngel (find me on Twitter)https://www.blogger.com/profile/06159218057261109997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-88529345297863010212008-02-23T11:13:00.000-08:002008-02-23T11:13:00.000-08:00Whew-that's a heavy post! And, please forgive me ...Whew-that's a heavy post! And, please forgive me for being a self-centered jackass here, but I am so glad to know I am not the only one who places odds on the worst-case-scenario things I dream up.<BR/><BR/>That being said, I can offer you much support as a fellow worst-case-scenario imaginer. I won't tell you none of it will happen, because we don't know that. I will tell you that I have high hopes for you that all will be well this cycle. You can be assured I am sending you lots of positive energy and vibes.<BR/><BR/>As far as the nothing to write about problem, I'm with Jen. I get tired of whining about my own stuff, but want someone who can sympathize to hear me and pat me on the back and tell me it will be okay. But I also hate to put some things down in words for fear that my magical thinking will make the worst come true. Yuck. So sometimes I verbally vomit all over my blog and sometimes I'm quiet as can be. It comes and goes.Alyssahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06996076537007147834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-67552222346652270082008-02-23T09:54:00.000-08:002008-02-23T09:54:00.000-08:00I figure the nice thing about blogging is that you...I figure the nice thing about blogging is that you can whine as much as you like. Unlike your IRL friends, your readers can just, well, stop. So you get to have unlimited, guilt-free whining.<BR/><BR/>I also think that the depression and fatigue of IF comes from the fact that we do feel the same sad things over and over again, like when you see a friend with a new baby. It never changes, and having a child is all about change. So everyone else's lives are changing--they're all on this fast-moving rollercoaster of chaos and change. And it looks scary but it also looks like so much fun. But we can't play. <BR/><BR/>Change is what we're all looking for, but we're stuck in the same loop. So if we keep playing that loop over and over again online, I'm thinking that's totally okay, too.the Babychaser:https://www.blogger.com/profile/12205229469287159556noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-83892665608944222882008-02-23T08:57:00.000-08:002008-02-23T08:57:00.000-08:00AH! Now I am imagining all sort of horrible things...AH! Now I am imagining all sort of horrible things that could possibly happen! <BR/>Actually, that's not true - I was already imagining them. As much as I love reading blogs, they scare me a bit sometimes. Some of them are people whose husbands had the surgery my husband is about to have and it didn't work out. Or women who have had multiple IVFs and I freak out because we can't even afford *one* right now - so am I going to have to save up for a year in between each attempt?<BR/>I worry that their failures will become my failures and I'm kidding myself about even attempting to do this.<BR/>_______<BR/>I do worry about running out of things to say though. I mean, how many times can I be sad to see a baby in somebody else's arms or whine about not having insurance before somebody puts a hit on my blog to shut me up? But sometimes I feel like that's all I have to say.<BR/>______<BR/>Maybe it's just me, but I'd want to get a cyst on my balls checked out. I don't have balls, so what do I know, but still, it sounds not so great.<BR/>___________<BR/>Ok, apparently, I have plenty to say. Shocking, I know.Iohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00918928563224342054noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-42379171246512779072008-02-23T08:36:00.000-08:002008-02-23T08:36:00.000-08:00Looks like you've got plenty to say!I know what yo...Looks like you've got plenty to say!<BR/><BR/>I know what you mean, though, about feeling like you don't have anything to say. I get so tired of my own situation and my own complaints sometimes that I don't even want to think about it/them let alone write about them.<BR/><BR/>I hope things work out for you this time.Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03844806977351587056noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2701294853944479424.post-23431121858632786412008-02-23T05:06:00.000-08:002008-02-23T05:06:00.000-08:00Damn, Babychaser, that's a lot to have on your min...Damn, Babychaser, that's a lot to have on your mind. I don't blame you for not wanting to explore it in writing. <BR/><BR/>One bright spot in all this (I'm from the Midwest, so I have had optimism mercilessly drilled into me)is that you know about many of the possible pitfalls. You are acting to prevent them, or at least bracing yourself.<BR/><BR/>The biggie at the end, of course, is something that you just can't prepare yourself for. I am so sorry you've had all that shit in the past. I have to admire you for keeping going after that. I really hope this time is different.Shinejilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03353174053245279899noreply@blogger.com